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Would A Gun Have Stopped NJ Kidnapping & Murder?

July 19, 2021 12:46 PM | Anonymous member (Administrator)



by Theresa Inacker, CNJFO Communications Director 7-16-21

The death of New Jersey woman and mother, Yasemin Uyar, at the hands of her former partner tragically demonstrates the flaws and shortcomings of government systems, "feel-good" restraining orders and plea deals. Uyar made multiple attempts to move, to escape her abuser, former partner and father of her child. She couldn't and DIED trying. Unfortunately, it’s a story that is all too common.

Tyler Rios has been charged with kidnapping in this case, and is suspected of killing Uyar. The cause of death has not been released, although it is considered homicide. Rios has a long history of domestic violence, which included the strangulation of Uyar in 2018, for which he served 180 days in a county jail for a downgraded assault charge. Rios was recently arrested this March for striking Uyar leaving a visible mark on her face.

Women for gun rights, and Second Amendment advocates condemn all forms of violence, and assert that Uyar’s life, and all women’s lives, are worth defending. Reconcile this concept with the fact that the Police have no duty to protect you. Unjustly relying on the false concept that Police will save you proves deadly. In the Town of Castle Rock case, the Supreme Court of the United States held that “there is no constitutional right to be protected by the state against being murdered by criminals.”

"You are your own first responder"--Dan Grdovic, CNJFO President

Anti-gun rights group Moms Demand Action, exploits examples of domestic violence to further its anti-gun agenda, but why the silence on strangulation, stabbings and other forms of violence? Are these type of acts only condemnable when a gun is used? --That means its inherently about the gun, and not the violence; disingenuous at best. And more DEAD bodies piled-up on the Altar of Gun Control!

Real women’s rights advocates propose true, empowering solutions that are effective against all forms of violence. These solutions include gun ownership and training. While other advocacy groups propose solutions within governmental systems, we know this will not stop the epidemic of domestic violence. For instance, the New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence is quoted as encouraging “stronger collaboration across systems.”

But according to domestic violence survivor, and state-level Delegate of the DC Project-New Jersey, Bernadette Hilway, a continued reliance on a broken system is not an effective resolution. Hilway, a lifelong New Jersey resident, suffered at the hands of former husband for years, and recalled the countless times Police would respond to their home after an assault occurred. Even her infant daughter suffered bruises and was not spared from the violence. On one occasion, Hilway’s husband pulled her by the hair out of the window of her vehicle, in front of her two young children. Although Police responded, he was arrested at 7 pm and released by 1130 pm the same evening.

The threats did not stop when Hilway’s husband left and they lived in separate residences. He would call threatening to burn her house down while she and her children slept; he threatened to use bombs against them.

And then one day, it all changed. Hilway was encouraged by a detective friend to apply for her Firearms Purchase Identification Card, so she did. She obtained her permit, purchased her first firearm, and became educated. She practiced her gun handling skills and had training. She advised her ex that she would strike back if he hurt her or her children. The threats and abuse stopped!

“They are basically bullies, knowing they are stronger than we are, they are able to physically overtake you. Becoming a gun owner changes that dynamic.”--Bernadette Hilway, Domestic Violence Survivor

Hilway encourages women to become educated, apply for their firearm permits and be prepared to defend themselves and their children. Unfortunately, the solutions proposed by governmental- focused advocacy groups fall short. WAY SHORT! To this day domestic violence victims are unable to carry a firearm in New Jersey, something the Coalition of New Jersey Firearm Owners and The DC Project is fighting.

Would Uyar still be alive today IF she owned a firearm? We'll never know. Relatives of murder victim Carol Bowne, a Berlin, New Jersey hairdresser who was stabbed to death and bled-out in her own driveway, as her newly-installed closed circuit surveillance system captured it all, know for certain. Fearing for her life, with the restraining order in-hand, Bowne applied for a hand gun purchase permit. 41 days later she called the police AGAIN to see what the hold-up was. Two days later she was DEAD! How many more bodies have to pile-up?

"Our lives are worth defending. Politicians and anti-rights groups who create obstacles and administrative hurdles that prevent women from lawfully defending ourselves are de facto, anti-woman. Groups such as CNJFO and DC Project raise awareness that firearms safety and violence prevention are achieved through education, and that gun rights are women’s rights."

---Theresa Inacker, DC Project NJ State Director and Delegate

Hilway is willing to help assist women in obtaining their permits to purchase "the great equalizer", and to find first-steps education courses in firearms handling. Groups like the Coalition of New Jersey Firearm Owners, and the DC Project-Women for Gun Rights, support and promote education over governmental legislation. Educating and empowering women against all forms of violence is the more effective solution. And it has been since Sam Colt invented the six-gun in 1836!

For more information on how you can help all domestic violence victims have a better chance of not turning up DEAD, please visit and for information on training and your rights.

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